I'm about to make a bunch of enemies among my friends and family. But I don't care. I just heard about the changes of the laws in California allowing gays to marry, and I'm happy about it.
I'm a Christian. I believe in the Bible. I believe that Jesus is the Son of God, who died for our sins. Do I believe that homosexuality is wrong? Who cares? Some of the nicest, coolest people I've known in this world are gay. And I believe that God loves them as much as He loves me. The Bible tells me to love my neighbor as myself, and a lot of my neighbors are gay. So I love them as much as I love any of my straight friends.
A lot of my Christian friends and family strongly believe that gays are part of some grand conspiracy to undermine Christianity. I've known too many gay people to believe that. My friends are not part of a political agenda. They are real people with problems and pain and joy and happiness like anyone else.
But that's not the main reason that I'm happy about the changes in California law. The main reason is that I'm a strong supporter of the US Constitution. The first line of the first amendment reads, "Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof..." Why do people want gay marriage to be illegal? Because "traditionally" marriage is a man and a woman. Where did this tradition come from? Judaism, Christianity, and later adopted into Islam. Western society has believed that homosexuality is wrong for as long as it has been dominated by Christianity.
American society is no longer just Christian European white people. As the world becomes smaller and cultures interact, we must accept that religion-tied traditions are not the necessarily the norm of everyone in America. Imagine that you are a devout Buddhist from a hypothetical Pacific island. In Buddhist teachings, being faithful to your partner (regardless of sex) is a virtue, and you hope to follow the established rituals of your new country and get married. But you find out that because you want to marry someone of the same sex, this is illegal. If you asked around to find out why, it would always be because of Christianity. But didn't the constitution say that there is no state religion in America? Why is this hypothetical Buddhist being forced to remain single?
By prohibiting gay marriage at the governmental level, we are forcing a single religious belief on all people, regardless of their personal religious beliefs. And that is not a very American thing to do.
Back in the 1500's the Bible was first being printed in "normal" languages instead of just in Latin. Normal Christians could start to read it and determine for themselves what was right. A group of them decided that it was more Biblical to baptise adults rather than infants. So they baptised each other as adults, and the Catholic church hunted them down and killed them because Catholicism was the official state religion, and they broke the religious rules. Christians today do the same thing when they try to mandate Christian moral law into American statutory law.
If a church or a minister wants to refuse to marry gays, I don't have a problem with that at all. Churches are there to interpret scripture. That is not the purpose of the US government.
My own pastor wouldn't perform my wedding because I was marrying a non-Christian. I don't have a problem with that pastor's decision. He was only following his personal moral beliefs, and I hold no grudge against him for it. But if the state of Minnesota had refused me a marriage license because I was marrying a non-Christian, I would have been just as hurt and annoyed as my gay friends who are just trying to live their lives like everyone else.
Alana